Father at 13

[Speedtouch]

I thought I'd post this on here as the majority of the population on this forum are quite young, many around 13 years old.

 

So then, how many of you are 13? And how many of you have had a child?

 

BOY dad Alfie Patten yesterday admitted he does not know how much nappies cost — but said: “I think it’s a lot.”

 

Baby-faced Alfie, who is 13 but looks more like eight, became a father four days ago when his girlfriend Chantelle Steadman gave birth to 7lb 3oz Maisie Roxanne.

He told how he and Chantelle, 15, decided against an abortion after discovering she was pregnant.

 

The shy lad, whose voice has not yet broken, said: “I thought it would be good to have a baby.

“I didn’t think about how we would afford it. I don’t really get pocket money. My dad sometimes gives me £10.”

 

Alfie, who is just 4ft tall, added: “When my mum found out, I thought I was going to get in trouble. We wanted to have the baby but were worried how people would react.

“I didn’t know what it would be like to be a dad. I will be good, though, and care for it.”

Alfie’s dad Dennis told how the lad does not really understand the enormity of his situation — but seemed desperate to be a devoted and responsible father.

Secret

 

He wanted to be the first to hold Maisie after the hospital birth. He tenderly kisses the baby and gives her a bottle.

And Dennis, 45, said: “He could have shrugged his shoulders and sat at home on his Playstation. But he has been at the hospital every day.”

Maisie was conceived after Chantelle and Alfie — just 12 at the time — had a single night of unprotected sex.

They found out about the baby when Chantelle was 12 weeks pregnant.

But they kept it a secret until six weeks later when Chantelle’s mum Penny, 38, became suspicious about her weight gain and confronted her.

After that Alfie’s family told only those closest to them for fear he would be “demonised” at school.

Chantelle gave birth to Maisie on Monday night after a five-hour labour at Eastbourne Hospital, East Sussex.

Last night she told The Sun: “I’m tired after the birth. I was nervous after going into labour but otherwise I was quite excited.”

 

Chantelle told how she discovered she was expecting after going to her GP with “really bad” stomach pains. She said: “Me and Alfie went. The doctor asked me whether we had sex. I said yes and he said I should do a pregnancy test. He did the test and said I was pregnant. I started crying and didn’t know what to do.

“He said I should tell my mum but I was too scared.

“We didn’t think we would need help from our parents. You don’t really think about that when you find out you are pregnant. You just think your parents will kill you.”

But Penny figured out what was going on after buying Chantelle a T-shirt which revealed her swelling tum.

Chantelle admitted she and Alfie — who are both being supported by their parents — would be accused of being grossly irresponsible. She said: “We know we made a mistake but I wouldn’t change it now. We will be good loving parents.

“I have started a church course and I am going to do work experience helping other young mums.

“I’ll be a great mum and Alfie will be a great dad.”

Chantelle and Maisie were released from hospital yesterday. They are living with Penny, Chantelle’s jobless dad Steve, 43, and her five brothers in a rented council house in Eastbourne. The family live on benefits. Alfie, who lives on an estate across town with mum Nicola, 43, spends most of his time at the Steadmans’ house.

He is allowed to stay overnight and even has a school uniform there so he can go straight to his classes in the morning.

Alfie’s dad, who is separated from Nicola, believes the lad is scared deep down.

He said: “Everyone is telling him things and it’s going round in his head. It hasn’t really dawned on him. He hasn’t got a clue of what the baby means and can’t explain how he feels. All he knows is mum and dad will help.

“When you mention money his eyes look away. And she is reliant on her mum and dad. It’s crazy. They have no idea what lies ahead.”

Dennis, who works for a vehicle recovery firm, described Alfie as “a typical 13-year-old boy”.

He said: “He loves computer games, boxing and Manchester United.” Dennis, who has fathered nine kids, told how he was “gobsmacked” when he discovered Alfie was to be a dad, too.

He said: “When I spoke to him he started crying. He said it was the first time he’d had sex, that he didn’t know what he was doing and of the complications that could come.

“I will talk to him again and it will be the birds and the bees talk. Some may say it’s too late but he needs to understand so there is not another baby.”

Lovely

Chantelle’s mum said: “I told her it was lovely to have the baby but I wish it was in different circumstances. We have five children already so it’s a big financial responsibility. But we are a family and will pull together and get through.

“She’s my daughter. I love her and she will want for nothing.”

Last night Michaela Aston, of the anti-abortion Christian charity LIFE, said: “We commend these teenagers for their courage in bringing their child into the world.

“At the same time this is symptomatic of the over-sexualisation of our youngsters and shows the policy of value-free sex education just isn’t working.”

Britain’s youngest known father is Sean Stewart. He became a dad at 12 when the girl next door, 15-year-old Emma Webster, gave birth in Sharnbrook, Bedford, in 1998. They split six months later.

 

Source: http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/article2233878.ece

 

This is simply extraordinary. I'm not going to ask about anyone's sex life on here, but who on here would think about wearing a rubber? I bet after reading this, all of you.

 

He has become a father before he hit that age where realisation occurs. That is, the realisation of the true seriousness of life. It kinda sucks this point, but its the point when you know you have to grow up. These kids haven't come anywhere near that yet. They have not only ruined their lives, but also the poor baby's too.

Put it this way, when the baby is 10; right when you need a strong, successful father figure, he will be 23. And because he had the child now, he won't have a decent enough education to get a decent enough job thanks to the biggest long-term distraction in the known world.

 

The majority of people will tell you having kids at 23 is still a bit young, so they really have overstepped the mark.

 

13? His balls haven't even dropped yet.

 

Welcome, my friends, to Idiocracy.

[CarMadMike]

I seen this on the news this morning, I simply can't believe someone would be so stupid

[Nodz86]

I saw this today, he looks about 8 but he is 13, I havent read the article but the girl is 15 so she should've known better for starters. Just goes to show how bad some of the younger generation is nowadays

[Mb]

I blame the girl actually.

[And3rs]

What was they thinking....

[iBilo]

I feel sorry for the baby.

[Speedtouch]

I blame the girl actually.

 

I will agree with you on that one there. She is old enough to have seen all the sex-ed videos, and should know how to put on a condom. It was supposedly his first time having sex, so wouldn't know what to do - so therefore would be effectively following what she told him to do.

 

That and just look at them. She is undeniably a chav, but he hasn't developed that look yet. He doesn't have a clue.

[DriftNismo]

The girl did know better but it's not entirely her own fault. That's the dumbest thing you can do at that age. None of the two have a clue what they are going to do about money, the mother is living on benefits with 5 other children! And the baby and mother is living there!

[Baltoman]

Tsc tsc, Stupid move kid... And please don't tell me that the girl sitting besides him is his GF. Anyways, This is not too rare here in Brazil, each day many 13-16 year old girls are getting pregnant. God says: Sex only after marriage. Humanity says: NEVAAA, THE YOUNGER THE BETTER, MON!!!!! ridiculous!

[t.]

My life.... jesus. If anyone can recommend a new country to live in please let me know.

[Baltoman]

Greenland ;)

[Baldy]

As bad as this is, it happens. As long as he takes his responsibilities of fatherhood then i hope they are happy and the child does well.

[Speedtouch]

^ Thats the problem IMO. He won't. He seems to have good intentions, but he just doesn't understand what being a father means, simply because he probably hasn't had a very good influential father himself, and because he is too young.

[Baldy]

Well it's up to them, there's nothing that can be done to stop them now. Although not all teenage parents are bad.

[me™]

He's 13 and he's getting it...

 

I'm 21 and single for god's sake!

 

This post may have also been influenced by what day it is tomorrow...

[Immelmann]

^Hahaha, funny funny.

 

Anywho, I blame her, I hope that wasn't her in the picture. And the age difference! Come on! She was 15 and he was 12?!? He's 80% of her age!

[ShadowGT]

*Cough*slut*cough*.........sorry had something in my throat.

 

She totally should of known better theres no excuse. There are plenty of other things two people that love each other can do in the bedroom other then full on sex.

[Baldy]

If she was 16 would you still be calling her that?

[iBilo]

Is it just me or does the girl look like Shannon Matthews's mum?

[CarboyZR1]

I'm completely speechless. Why were they thinking, especially the girl? I know the boy has good intentions, but he needs to think! Why on earth was he hitting on an older "woman" anyway?

[Baltoman]

I'm completely speechless. Why were they thinking, especially the girl? I know the boy has good intentions, but he needs to think! Why on earth was he hitting on an older "woman" anyway?

 

Prepare for the Dark days where women are preffering younger men!!!!!!!

 

Careful Carboy, you could be next *tehee*

[CarboyZR1]

Prepare for the Dark days where women are preffering younger men!!!!!!!

 

Careful Carboy, you could be next *tehee*

Safe to stay in the singles club ^^ xD

[Baltoman]

not for long that is :twisted:

[CarboyZR1]

not for long that is :twisted:

Maybe you've got a point there ;). I talk to too many girls already xD

[Baltoman]

Caaareefuuuullll heheheheheh